Frequently Asked Questions

1. What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic Abuse is a range of behaviours that Perthshire Women’s Aid can discuss with you to help you understand the complexities of this issue (see Domestic Abuse).

2. I don’t have any bruises or broken bones as my partner does not physically assault me. Is what I am experiencing Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse can involve several types of behaviour not only physical abuse (see link Domestic Abuse).

3. I don’t need a safe place to stay at the moment. Can I still come to Women’s Aid?

Yes. We are here to listen to you and provide what support we can. You can phone or drop into the office.

4. What help is there for my children?

We have dedicated Children and Young People’s workers who will offer the children one-to one support and the chance to meet with others through group work sessions.

5. Does using drugs or alcohol cause Domestic Abuse?

CounsellingThe use of alcohol or drugs is not the underlying cause of domestic abuse. Many perpetrators are violent and abusive without the use of alcohol or drugs. Abusers often use alcohol and drugs as an excuse.

Women may also turn to drugs or alcohol to try and blot out their experiences, and this can be used as an excuse by their partners for the abuse.

6. Do mental health problems cause Domestic Abuse?

At times, people struggle for the answer as to why domestic abuse happens, and they often believe that the abusers must have mental health problems. The vast majority of people with mental health problems are not abusive. Abusers are in control, and make choices about when, where, and how often they abuse their partners.

7. What is the cause of Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse against a woman is the misuse of power and control by a male perpetrator. They chose to behave in this manner, as though, they are, in some way, entitled to do this. As such, Domestic Abuse by men against women can be seen as a consequence of the inequalities that exist in our society.

8. What are the affects of Domestic Abuse on women?

The affects are many and varied, and each individual woman will react to her experiences in her own way. These can include any or all of the following:

  • Pregnant woman holding a case.Isolation from friends and family
  • Poor health
  • Depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and other psychological problems
  • Physical injury
  • Pregnant women may have a miscarriage or stillbirth
  • Prevented from having or keeping a job
  • Become homeless
  • No financial security

Two women a week, on average, are killed by their partner or ex-partner in the UK.

9. Why is Domestic Abuse linked to pregnancy?

Studies have shown that there is a very clear link between Domestic Abuse and pregnancy.  Domestic Abuse can start or escalate during pregnancy. Maternity services have been aware of this for some time and now incorporate screening procedures for this, in private, during visits.

10. I have been separated from my abuser for years, but I still have problems in relation to the abuse I suffered. Can I come to Women’s Aid?

Yes you can. We are here to listen, and support you to make sense of what has happened. We also have dedicated, trained counsellors who offer weekly sessions that you can access, if you wish.